Part I: He's not lazy ; Let me reintroduce you to your son ; Shifting bodies, shifting minds ; If I only had a brain ; Leap before you look ; Big boys don't cry ; Too cool for school
Part II: From conflict to change: the seeds of motivation ; The paradoxical response and the plot for false independence ; Putting the self back into self-control ; Autonomy
a new way forward ; How to stop rescuing your son and start supporting his autonomy ; Helicopters, lawn mowers, and drones: why parents control their kids ; I think I can ; Connection
Appendix: Homework predictor ; Backward planner ; The decision grid ; Exploring values ; The goal setter ; Worry log ; Thought journal.